This post is from staff writer Suba Iyer.
Death. Nothing in this life is certain but that except death, but that is the one thing almost everyone prefers not to think about. It is depressing to think about our own demise. Why think about something that depresses you? Because it is not about me, it is about the loved ones I leave behind.
My husband will be an emotional wreck if I, well, leave him. Money will be the last thing he will think about at that time, but he has to eat. We have some dreams, some expensive dreams that we want to make a reality. That will cost him a lot of money. I will be doing him an injustice if I left him unable to pursue those dreams. I have been trying to put together a master information kit that has everything he needs in case of an emergency.
Essential but often overlooked estate planning documents
Advance health care directive form
When I went for surgery, the hospital gave me an advance health care directive form I could fill and get notarized. It had 5 different sections for me to fill out -
- Power of attorney for health care/Health care proxy: This part lets you name someone to make decisions about your health care if/when the doctor declares that you no longer can make/communicate your health care decisions.
- Living will: This section has information about your wishes about different end of life decisions, if you can no longer speak for yourself.
- Organ donation information
- Physician directive: A form that lets you designate a physician to have primary responsibility for your health care.
- Signature and witness form
From what I gather, it need not be all in the same form. Some people choose to do those individually with their attorney as part of their other estate planning documents. The power of attorney for health care and the living will put together are called an advance health care directive.
Will or (better) revocable living trust
A will is one of the most basic and most common estate planning documents. A will, at its simplest form, will dictate who will inherit your assets and who will become guardians for your children. Most estate planning attorneys will ask you to have a revocable living trust instead of a will to avoid probate and to give more detailed/complex instructions. Here is a great comparison of what wills and living trusts can do, and their pros/cons. At this point, all we have is a simple will that I made up myself. When our net worth hits a certain point or if we have a child, we will consult a lawyer to have a more robust living trust in place. A will is very easy to make, so even if you feel you don’t have assets significant enough to warrant meeting with a lawyer and setting up a living trust, at the very least, draft a will.
HIPAA release form
HIPAA was created to protect the privacy of the individual, but it also makes it difficult for family members to discuss your health care and/or deal with insurance on your behalf at a time when you cannot do so.
Financial durable power of attorney
A simple power of attorney document lets you appoint someone you trust to handle important financial and legal matters on your behalf, but it becomes ineffective if you die or become incapacitated. You need to have a durable power of attorney if you want the power of attorney to continue to be effective even if you become incapacitated or incompetent. Durable power ends upon death.
If you want to use a lawyer to draft any of these documents the American Bar Association offers a search and referral tool to look up lawyers in your state and Nolo has an extensive lawyer directory categorized by practice area and state.
My life information organizer
It took me almost two years to compile all this information in one place. This is a big binder of information about, well, pretty much everything in our life, divided into multiple areas.
- Personal (personal information, passport information, previous addresses)
- Emergency (emergency Plans, emergency contacts)
- Digital (email accounts, passwords and login information, data backup plans)
- Bank (bank accounts, account types, balance, account Numbers, username and password hints)
- Career (current resume, employment history, education history, transcripts)
- Insurance (life insurance, health insurance, car insurance, homeowner/renter insurance)
- Medical (doctor information/contact, medical summary [allergies, blood group, etc.], prescription medications, family medical history)
- Life (organ and body donation, final arrangements, estate plans, funeral receipts)
- Credit card (account numbers, username/password hints, payment information)
- Investments and retirement (investment accounts, retirement accounts, businesses, real estate investments, safe deposit box information, inventory)
- Proof of ownership (house documents, car title)
- Debt (debt owed to you, debt you owe)
- Family (marriage /divorce certificates, birth certificates)
- Charity (trust information, directions for the trust operation)
Other things to look into
Make sure the beneficiary information is up to date for all your accounts.
This is one thing we are still lacking. Yes, we don’t have life insurance. I have been meaning to get term life insurance but keep procrastinating. Until early last year, both of us were working and we didn’t have any kids. I was planning to get a policy when we have kids, but now debating getting a policy even before having a child. Hopefully, I can get this done by the end of the year.
It is not a fun or even a comfortable exercise, but we owe it to our loved ones to make this as easy as possible. What end-of-life planning tools have you used? Do you feel peace of mind with these directives in place, or have you yet to establish your wishes?